“If we don’t call you in a week, that means the biopsies came back clear. We now only call if the biopsies come back as melanoma.”
So I’m waiting. It will be a week tomorrow.
This is nothing new to me. Every 3-6 months for the last five years, I’ve waited for a call.
Five years ago I had a melanoma removed from my arm. Four months ago I had a melanoma removed from my face. “Scarface” is my new nickname. The doctor says that eventually the scar won’t even be noticeable. He’s good at what he does so he’s probably right. Although, honestly, I wouldn’t mind having a bit of a scar. It adds some character. Makes me feel tough.
They used to call whether the news was good or bad. Now they only call if it’s bad. I get that. Calling takes a lot of time because there are a lot of patients.
It used to be that when I saw their number pop up I wondered, “What will it be?” Now, if it pops up, I’ll know without even talking to them.”
So I’m waiting.
I’m watching the phone.
And yes, I’m worrying.
I know I shouldn’t worry. So I’m also worrying about worrying!
I’m remembering Garth’s advice. I’m reading The Power of the Now by Eckart Tolle. Tolle nails it, “This kind of psychological fear is always of something that might happen, not of something that is happening now. You are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future. This creates an anxiety gap.” You think?
“You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection – you cannot cope with the future.”
“Now” is the key to the dimension of peace.
Then there are the sayings in the Bible. I’ve preached them more times than I can count! But I haven’t learned to practice them. I haven’t moved into that dimension of transformation. I want to.
“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes (Matthew 6:34 The Message).
“And now I have a word for you who brashly announce, ‘Today – at the latest, tomorrow – we’re off to such and such a city for the year. We’re going to start a business and make a lot of money’ You don’t know the first thing about tomorrow. You’re nothing but a wisp of fog, catching a brief bit of sun before disappearing. Instead, make it a habit to say, ‘If the Master wills it and we’re still alive, we’ll do this or that.’ As it is, you are full of your grandiose selves. All such vaunting self-importance is evil. In fact, if you know the right thing to do and don’t do it, that, for you, is evil” (James 4:13-17 The Message).
Did you catch the drift?
“Give your attention to what God is doing Right Now…”
“You don’t know the first thing about tomorrow…do the right thing now. If I don’t do now what I know is right, that is sin (Yes, I paraphrased it).
What is happening now? What is God saying and doing now? What is the right thing to do now? I don’t know tomorrow. I don’t know the next minute. So I will live now. I will love now. I will do right and do good now. At least I want to.
Oh, that phone call? Believe it or not, I forgot about it while I was writing. That’s good. Maybe I’m making progress.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Living for today isn’t always easy but if I see things in the “now” I appreciate those little beautiful things I have always looked past. You are special person to many and always remember you are loved!
We’re learning together. Love you.
We’re learning together. Love you.