I don’t know if it’s because I’m an “aging baby boomer” or what, but I kind of cringed at a couple of age jokes by Ellen at this years Oscars.
I like Ellen. A lot. So I tried hard not to cringe. To overlook the jokes. To think, “She didn’t really say that, did she?”
Her best joke, according to TIME, was when she said, “Possibility number one: 12 Years a Slave wins Best Picture. Possibility number two: You’re all racists. And now welcome our first white presenter, Anne Hathaway!”
Her worst joke? There were two nominees.
One was aimed at 84 year old Best Supporting Actress nominee June Squibb. Ellen mentioned the Nebraska actress, and then turning to Ms Squibb, she shouted “I’m telling everyone you were very wonderful in Nebraska,” as if the elderly actress must have hearing problems. Granted, It may be true – it’s true for me. A lot of music booming in this baby boomer’s ears has surely lessened my hearing. The comment still seemed hurtful
The other nominee for worst joke was one directed at 67 year old Liza Minnelli. Ellen complimented the crowd for including “one of the most amazing Liza Minnelli impersonators she’d ever seen…Good job, sir.” She was, of course, referring to Minnelli herself. Ouch.
Liza came to the Oscars with her siblings to see their late mother, Judy Garland, honored in a tribute to the 75th anniversary of “The Wizard of Oz.” Not sure how “honored” Liza felt.
The “age theme” was set early in the show with this joke, “I’m not saying movies are the most important thing in the world. I’m not saying that because the most important thing in the world is youth.”
Sadly, the joke represented reality to a lot of people.
Last week, Ellen promised on “Good Morning America” that she would not be doing any “mean joke”. “My intentions are to make people happy, “ she had told Robin Roberts, “and my intentions are to never hurt anybody, and my intentions are to have compassion and to hope I can spread that a little bit every single day.”
I believe her. Few people set out to intentionally hurt others. “Hurt,” though, doesn’t know the difference between intentional and non-intentional. It just hurts.
There is truth in the African proverb, “The ax forgets. The tree remembers.”
As one who speaks publicly regularly, I know people have said about me what I said about Ellen: “He didn’t really say that, did he?” I get that. So, I look at this situation not as a judgment against Ellen but as a mirror in which I can see myself and the power of my words.
I was accepted into membership of an international service fraternity last week. Its members commit to live by the following:
Of the things we think, say or do:
Is it the TRUTH?
Is it FAIR to all concerned?
Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER RELATIONSHIPS?
Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?
As a Christ-follower, should I commit to anything less?
Buddha put it like this, “If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?”
Or check out the Bible, “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).